Eagan, MN, July 02, 2017( GCDC) - Every year in May, June and July the most Anyuak's wedding months of the year, about 10 to 15 Anyuak couples will say “I do,” committing to a lifelong relationship that will be full of friendship, joy, and love that will carry them forward to their final days on this earth.
On July 1st 2017, a Gambella couple from Canada, groom Ajack Ojulu (Omot Okeng) and bride Rob David, tied the knot in front of thousands of friends and families in Eagan, MN , USA to wittiness their marriage. Hundreds of community members and church leaders were at the ceremony and observed spectacular Anyuak's cultural and traditional wedding cermony, it was 'fantastic', traditionally breathtaking eyes wittiness told Gambella Media News.
There is no formula for love or life but, it has been said that everybody wants to go to heaven but nobody wants to die. We’ve noticed a similar phenomenon in marriage today.
Marriage is a precious gift and an amazing blessing. Many of us long to experience this great joy, and rightfully, so yet while many have the desire, far fewer are ready, once they find marriage, to embrace the full extent of what marriage is, we dream, hope, and yearn for the marital bliss we see on screen, but we resist anything that might threaten our own desires or freedoms in the process.
We’ve subtly come to believe that marriage is more about self-gratification and less about self-sacrifice.
On the other hand, Kindness, glues couples together. Research independent from theirs has shown that kindness (along with emotional stability) is the most important predictor of satisfaction and stability in a marriage. Kindness makes each partner feel cared for, understood, and validated, feel loved. “My bounty is as boundless as the sea,” says Shakespeare’s Juliet. “My love as deep; the more I give to thee, / The more I have, for both are infinite.” That’s how kindness works too: there’s a great deal of evidence showing the more someone receives or witnesses kindness, the more they will be kind themselves, which leads to upward spirals of love and generosity in a relationship.
The apostle Paul paints a different picture of marriage in his letter to the Ephesians. Paul explains that instead of a selfish union, marriage at its core is designed to be a union (). Death to self, not personal gratification is the center of marriage’s gravitational pull. Sadly, we don’t hear that enough, perhaps because it’s so difficult to practice. What we see played out in entertainment, and what our flesh craves by nature, is a marriage that simply fulfills our own longings, furthers our own passions, and covers our own inadequacies.
Many of us are (or have been) desperate for the promise of romance and emotional connection. If we aren’t careful, we will let our selfish desires lead our pursuit of marriage, instead of God and his word. We come to believe that marriage is only worthwhile when we find the perfect husband or wife , someone to meet our specific needs and complete our fantasies, the lost puzzle piece, the missing link, the other half of our heart to make us whole and satisfy us in ways we haven’t experienced yet. Like the man in , we isolate ourselves from the wisdom and counsel of others, and cast aside sound judgment. Whatever our sinful desires say, we must pray against going down this path in search of love.
Paul exhorts believers towards a life of godliness, fueled by joy in Christ and concern for others, not personal gain and gratification (; ; ). If this is true of how we should live toward all people, how much more toward our (future) spouse?
We’re called to look to their needs and wants above our own. This will be as small as the temperature setting in the house at night, and as serious as practicing patience with struggles in intimacy. Whatever the issue, the more we wrestle against desires to gratify our flesh and instead put our sin to death (), the more we will experience the true joy of marriage as Christ designed it. This is how we do it.
Happy Canada's 150th Anniversary Birthday and may God continues to bless and newlywed couple in the future come.